Thursday, June 24, 2010
3 Days Later: Presumptuous or Not?
Hi everyone. I received a disturbing comment and want to ask folks if they in fact believe it was too presumptuous of me to ask for monetary aid in this particular endeavor. Please be honest and let me know of your thoughts. I am only human, so mistakes are inevitable. If anyone has any better suggestions for how i might be able to raise this money PLEASE let me know. Thanks again.
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Hell no it isn't. I asked for money when I went out for the AIDS walk of San Francisco. You're going on an incredible adventure to further your understanding of the world. Just because you need some monetary help and will ask for it shouldn't matter. It’s not like you’re begging for booze or something.
ReplyDeleteur lack of plannin is what put u in this predicament. u shud have been saving, the minute u applied, regardless of whether u got in or not, so that on the of chance that u did get in, u would have savings for it...and after stating u were not financially responsible beginning of summer, why should people want to give u money. u should have planned accordingly, n not expect people to save u...
ReplyDeletewhat happens when people give u money and u end up not having enough? are people getting refunded? plus how will u buy the ticket and not be sure if u will have enough to make the trip??
You have brought up some great points, and i am thankful that you stated them in a rational fashion as opposed to the other person that commented on my earlier blog. It is hard to save money when you have bills and are working partime while attending school. When i said that i didn't plan accordingly earlier in the summer, i meant that i didn't prioritize well. I ended up having to spend a couple hundred (about $400) to get my car fixed because my muffler/and part of the exhaust system (1995 camry)went. I could have driven on a bad exhaust system, but the muffler was extremely loud, and where i am from, i would be running the risk of getting ticketed by the police. In addition, a bad exhaust system wears on the car itself, and i didn't want my car getting any worse especially since i need it to get to and from my job. I did apply for a loan but was denied, and i did get financial aid to cover all the program fees (about 14,000) but personal expenses, meaning food, transportation to and from classes and cell phone fees (mandatory by program guidelines) for 4 months is what i didn't anticipate. Many abroad programs come with room and board which includes food, and i didn't think transportation would be a problem because campus usually isn't too far from living quarters in many places, but in china, things are run a bit differently. It was wrong of me to have assumed, and i have put myself into a predicament, and it is perfectly understandable how you feel, that's why i am hoping that people will help me regardless of my blunders. There is no pressure to donate, and as for my part, if i have to find a third job, i will. Because this is an opportunity I don't want to pass up. I am not leaving everything up to you fine people, i am also doing my share with working hard everyday to save up. Once again, thanks for the comments, and i hope this was a sufficient enough answer your questions. I wouldn't mind hearing further comments from you. thanks again. oh by the way, i would refund the money back if i am not able to purchase the airplane ticket, and if i don't raise all the other money, i have been talking to people and students who have been through the program about jobs in china. So if it doesn't pan out, but i am able to pay for the airline ticket, i will be scouting jobs when i get to Beijing :)
ReplyDeletemeh, this is why one shud always have emergency funds, for emergencies like this. even if its $10 a week you save, instead of eating out, it makes a difference...wat are ur parents doing in way of helping u out, if u dont mind me asking? cant they apply for a loan and you pay them back??
ReplyDeleteu do realise in other to work in another country u will need to get a work permit and that costs money and isnt always guaranteed...so i wouldnt bank on that, n wud make sure u have enuff, before emabrking on said journey. not tryna be debbie downer, but even if u dont go on this trip, if anything, u learn how to save and prioritise ur money and u can continue to savee n take the trip wen u have sufficient funds n are not limited to wat u can do because of a program
I totally agree with you about the emergency fund. I would set one up now, but all the money i acquire via wages, or donations, i am of course putting towards the program. I actually acquired a student visa, so i will be able to work once i arrive over there. As for my parents, my mom lost her job due to the bad economy, so my dad has taken on most of all the bills and he is already deep in dept due to student loans he had signed for, for myself and my brother to attend college. Therefore, i can't expect them to provide those kind of funds, because it is absolutely not feasible. I appreciate your advice and i have definitely learned from this predicament, and will take all precautions and suggestion to heart and steer clear of any similar situations in the future. once Once again thanks, and i will continue to update the blog with how i am handling my situation.
ReplyDeleteThis is an amazing opportunity for you! Pursue the opportunity at all costs! Forget what others say about your methods of attaining funding for the endeavor or any perceived lack of planning on your part. It is impossible to plan for every negative scenario that you may encounter. I'm certain you weren't planning on not having enough money to pursue this opportunity. Even if it were the case that you weren't sure if you could afford the opportunity, you are courageous and now at an advantage for having taken a risk by pursuing this opportunity. You (and others close to you) know your heart. Do not listen to naysayers and cynics. Keep pursuing those dreams, AE! ---a fan
ReplyDeleteThank you sooo much Mama Muse for your kind words because they have fortified me even more. I had my doubts at first because there was a bit of opposition to what i was planning. i started thinking that maybe this endeavor would not fall through and that it was my fault. But as you stated, you can't plan for every negative scenario, and I can proudly say that i tried by best. Thanks again! :)
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